0 What to do when your child has diarrhea

These week has been the hardest for me as a new mom. I could say that because my family and i are dealing with my son's diarrhea since the first day after we celebrated his first birthday. 

I had been noted the harms that can cause to the children's health from my readings on the net and parenting magazine. It comes to my deepest concerns when it comes to my son's having diarrhea, i think any parents would do. Breaks my heart seeing my son looked helplessly weak and lied on his back for almost a day and becoming more clingy than usual. Especially when it comes to diarrhea that is not caused by teething. Of course this is not his first time having diarrhea , but it was never like this. Usually when it caused by teething , the disease lasted only a couple days , followed by the loss of appetites. 

But , this time the symptoms are, watery stool, low grade fever, stomach upset, vomiting, dehydrations and loss of appetites. Comes today, he has been fighting this diarrhea thing for a week and there's seem like it was not going to get better any soon. And on day 3 , he looked smaller and feel lighter, less urinating and was very weak for he had been dehydrated. We had brought him to two private clinics and once to the government hospitals but it seems like none of the medicines works for him. 

So, i search online and many got so many results back. Of course , there are many reasons that can caused bad diarrhea in children ...

..but, the truest and mostly matched with my son's symptoms above  told that my son might be having diarrhea caused by rotavirus. This kind of diarrhea has no cures but , to keep him hydrated with salts and sugar solution (the ORS packs). However, good news about this diseases is that , the infected child while fighting this diseases will also increase his own immunity against the virus so, it will be less likely for him to get infected again. 

Of course , keeping the child hydrated, and hygienic could be the hardest and tiring task when your child pooed for 4-10 times a day. And everytime you have to wipe and clean his butt off, he will likely be grumpy and giving tantrums since he will have bad rashes going on on the butt. This rashes are mainly caused by the bacterias from the stool besides the watery state that the stool possessed during these time. If the diapers are not changed regularly right after he poops, the diseases might get worse or make the healing process longer. 

To make your child drinking the salts solutions could be the hardest tasks since i am pretty sure that no babies, nor toddlers would drink it up like they were having a bottle of milk. The key is to gradually make your child get used to the taste. Start with one or tablespoon every 15 minutes, then gradually increase it to two ounces every hour once you see that the child becomes less rejecting when they are given the liquid. It is important for the parents to remember that the child might vomit liquid when they are drinking too much at a time. So, make the child drink from a spoon to avoid vomiting.

Adults who is attending children with this kind of diarrhea must always keep your hands and clothes hygiene after cleaning your child's poops. It was best with if you are equipped with the antibacterial hand gel , one that required no washings. 

Why adults should take this precautions? Rotavirus is common in children under five years old but adults too could get infected when he or she has children infected. This is because, the virus is resting in the poops and the virus can be distributed and infects through oral and respiratory. Though the symptoms might not be as severe as your child has but, it could send you resting on bed for at least couple of days too. Two days after i was back home for the weekend, i was infected which as i typing this now. And this of course not the best time i had in this very weekend. 

As i recalled, since i was back home, my shirts had been poops twice and wiping my son's butt off for more than dozens times with wet tissues and direct flows of water in the sinks so, it does not surprised me at all now that i had similar diarrhea  too. Vomiting, fever, stomach upsets and pooping watery stools. Not fun, but i gotta be strong for my son to weather this trouble. All i ever hoped for now is that i will strong tomorrow to look after my son and pray that he will be healed soon.

0 First Birthday Party for My Son. Happy Birthday, baby Chris.

Planning the first birthday party is a milestone for every parents. We do understand that our child would not understand this party thingy or might not even care about it. 

So, it is more likely that the party was held for the family and friends. Our child might not even remember the party even if she seems like enjoying the love around during the party. So, it's really up to the family themselves if they want it to do the party. What's important is that the parents would not feel pressured into doing it.

 Me , on the other hand was really excited doing it since i think there's just so many to be thankful throughout the year and Steven and I just consider our son to bring so much blessing and joys in both of our family. So, i might say that my son's first birthday party is not only about celebrating my son's birthday but also to be thankful of all the blessings the family enjoys.

My son is turning one on the last Thursday but, since Steven and I were busy with works on the weekdays we decided to do it on Saturday night and invited close family , friends and neighbors only. Of course, doing a party needs a plan! I started making plan at least two weeks from the party date. Well, it starts off with designing banner and invitation cards. Of course, this works wasn't by me. But , by Steven. He he he. I only send the designs off to be printed in a printing shop in town. 

Then, the food budget. It takes 80% from the whole party budget to be allocated. Food is one of the most important element in a party and make a last remembrance. I think it made the most lasting impressions whether it's good or bad. Planning what to be served is important since this party was meant for the kids. It's funny that a party can be judged as good or not by a food alone. So, mom and me picks menus that we thought children would love. And of course lots of snacks and jellys.

If the budget is not tight, held games for the kids. Reward the guest children with presents. Then, party would not be a plain prayers, cutting cake and  eating sessions only. I am pretty sure by the way that parents would not include the sleep over in the first birthday party. A year old baby would still very much needs to be cuddled from her mom when going to sleep at this year around and will be so until two to three years ahead.

Games doesn't have to be many. It's enough by three. So, i picked three games that i thought is not budget consuming and can be held for a short period of time, who-eats-the-chips-the-most, passing-hot-potatoes and couple of lucky draws. The kids were enjoying the games so much that the house was filled with the children laughter and screams. And this is the only day that i really heard my old man , i mean my dad laughed his heart out so much when looking at the kids were histerically playing.

Final element to be considered is time. The party is best held at times when your baby has just had her nap and mealtime to avoid her being grumpy during the party. So, i think it's best held at late afternoon , just when she woke up from her nap and getting her bath and eat. It works wonderfully. My son surprisingly became exceptionally sociable during the party. It's as if he was the guest usherer at the door  when the guests were just arriving. He walked around entertaining most of the guests, singing along (of course in her own form of language) and even show support to those children that took part in the games. My son truly makes the whole crowd turned head for him for his exceptional friendliness that evening. 

 

 

Looking at this photo makes me realized that my baby son isn't much a
helpless baby anymore but a toddler already. Aww, feels like the moment i gave birth to him
was just yesterday! Time flies fast.

Ian.. Might just be Chris' first friend outside home

Chris was so keen to hold the balloon from Ian, while Ian was busy blowing it up

Chris was actually amazed by the ONE tooth that Aaron (boy in orange shirt) has. How he has four on his upper gum and two on the lower gum while he is younger than Aaron by eight years.

Chris always wants to be the centre of attention of everyone

Echa. The most healthiest looking niece. She shows more empathy like the adults do.

Echa and Xora. The BFF niece. It's so funny watching them laughing together at Madagascar actions. They laughed even at the most unlikely funny scenes. Hahahaha... Girls just wanna have fun.

Chris did not cut the cake. He poked.

Passing "hot potatoes" around the circle could get the kids going crazy. Some even fight about who pass the slowest. They were trying to slow down the passing pace so that they can own the gift inside the many layers. Everytime the music stopped, the kid who was holding the "potatoes" at the moment will unwrapped it by a layer. And when the music played again, the "potatoes" gets around again.

The boys really work their ass off in this who-eats-the-most-chips challenge. By the way, the boy (Fikri) with red muscle tee won this challenge.

First winner of the lucky draw. I heard from guest that he was having a fever but he managed to attend the party anyway. Guest even said, that he recovered after winning it. Whoaa. Semangat pemenang.

Second winner of the lucky draw, (Trifenna). She screamed , "me!" so loud when her number was called, it shocked and freezed my brother, the game host for a while. It was like he was having a short term memory loss when he heard the screams, his face told, " what, what, what? What just happened? Did i say something wrong?"

A first birthday party should not be a pressured tasks for the parents. If they were too occupied i think it is okay to held a party that is attended by the close family and friends only. Baby won't care and the only thing that matters the most is that the baby feels loved by the people around her.  

That's it from me sharing my first ever experience planning and held my son's first birthday party.I hope you enjoy it and if you are planning yours too, all the best. If you have had the same experience, share it. Sharing is love.

0 Kepada Penghina-Penghina Cikgu. With Lurve.

Suatu petang selepas balik dari sekolah, bersembang-sembang dengan housemate entah out of the blue macam mana housemate tu bertanya kalau saya suda baca blog Kisah Liyana ,menghina cikgu.

Belum baca blog nya, klik sini. Sebenarnya ada beberapa lagi. Ada yang just post kat Facebook. Sudah bosan dengan status update, apa nak dimakan hari ini..apa nak dibuat besok, sakit hati dengan si anu, sekarang hina cikgu. Kalau anda baca the entire post dan komen-komen di bawahnya adalah komen-komen yang agak lucu dan mengarut. Paling tidak tahan ialah, "orang lain kene la keje..kang cikgu takde gaji...agensi lain kan yang berhempas pulas mengerah tenaga nak bayar gaji cikgu yang mahal tu...." Bodohnya statement ini.

 

Saya pun apa lagi, terus la scroll-scroll ,tap-tap tablet tu googling for Kisah Liyana. Hmm, malangnya blog nya telah diremoved. Tetapi, ada juga bloggers yang sempat share link tu kat blog mereka so saya pun berkesempatan lah untuk membaca entrinya yang bukan sahaja menimbulkan kontroversi tetapi pastinya cikgu-cikgu yang pernah mendidiknya tu akan kecewa , hati jantung jatuh!

Apasal hina cikgu? Berdasarkan kepada pembacaan saya lah...kebanyakan penghina-penghina cikgu-cegi ini tidak puas hati dengan gaji cikgu yang mencapai 2k tidak setimpal dengan beban kerjanya. Begini lah jadinya bila syok-syok tulis blognya , ikut perasaan jer. Tidak terfikir di akal fikiran yang dunia sekarang ni sesiapa sahaja boleh akses nukilan-nukilan anda dan share. Maka ini lah yang terjadi. 

Cikgu memanglah jadual kerjanya setengah hari sahaja. Tapi sedarkah, ingatkah anda masa sekolah dulu siapa yang sediakan lembaran kerja latihan, ujian? Bahan-bahan alat bantu mengajar? Results peperiksaan anda? Atau seriously adakah anda berfikir bahawa semua itu jatuh dari langit dipungut oleh cikgu dan dibawa ke bilik darjah untuk disampaikan agar murid-murid ini suatu hari nanti akan menjadi insan yang berjaya? 

Segala yang disampaikan oleh guru itu dirancang terlebih dahulu agar sesuai dengan aras kecerdikan murid. Semua nya perlu disediakan oleh cikgu. Cikgu menyediakan itu ini dengan menggunakan duit gaji mereka demi pelajar. Berkorban masa dengan anak-anak untuk murid-murid. 

 Fikirlah, kalau cikgu berada disekolah dari jam 7 pagi sehingga jam 1 petang, that makes 6 jam sehari, Sehari ada lebih kurang 3- 4 jam kelas. Di mana masa untuk persediaan mengajar? Di mana masa untuk menjalankan tanggungjawab lain sebagai guru? Kebanyakan cikgu mengangkut kerja balik ke rumah. Supaya di rumah boleh menjaga makan minum anak dan suami sambil boleh juga menjalankan tugas cikgu.  Cikgu bukan mengajar semata-mata , cikgu menjadi pemandu, kerani, jurulatih sukan, dan bermacam-macam lagi. Tugas mengajar pula doesn't end with students out loud, "Terima kasih , cikgu!" dan cikgu berlalu keluar dari kelas. Di pejabat, cikgu kena menanda buku, menanda kertas ujian, key in markah, analisis markah...belum lagi tugasan lain sebagai guru kelas, guru kesihatan, guru bertugas mingguan dan banyak lagi.

Sooo...jangan pernah fikir tugas cikgu itu tidak setimpal dengan gajinya. Semua pekerjaan itu ada bebanan dan tanggungjawabnya. Kalau tiada, adakah kita boleh hidup sejahtera begini? Semua pekerjaan ini saling melengkapi antara satu sama lain. Tiada cikgu, tiada lah doktor, engineer, nurse, bisnesman..Tiada bisnesman, cikgu tiada makan, tiada doktor, cikgu sakit murid sakit , parah tu, Tiada engineer, cikgu tiada tempat untuk mengajar , melahirkan lebih banyak engineer. Kan, kan?Ada kanak-kanak di negara-negara yang susah yang tidak mendapat langsung peluang untuk belajar. Anda sepatutnya bersyukur kerana cikgu anda lah yang menjadikan anda engineer, anda seorang yang berjaya atau telah mendapat ijazah. At least, anda tekan-tekan keyboard menulis tu pun , belajar mengeja mengira semuanya dari cikgu kan.

So, berubah lah. Kalau pun , anda tidak berpuas hati.. Jangan lah menghina. Tidak perlulah tulis out loud di facebook or blog. Kesian cikgu-cikgu yang pernah mengajar penghina-penghina ini jika mereka terbaca tulisan-tulisan anda yang tidak mengenang budi tu. Apa lagi penghina-penghina ini kebanyakannya gologan terpelajar. Mungkin lupa siapa yang telah membantu mereka berjaya.  Walaupun mungkin anda bebas sebenarnya untuk menulis apa sahaja tetapi kebebasan itu haruslah dipergunakan dengan berhati-hati. Tengok lah sekarang, bebas punya bebas tidak sayang mulut .

Kalaupun, anda pernah mempunyai pengalaman mendapat cikgu yang kurang memberi kasih sayang perhatian terhadap anda semasa zaman persekolahan, tidak semua cikgu seperti itu. Ingat, TIDAK SEMUA.Cikgu juga adalah insan biasa. Tidak terlepas dari membuat kesilapan. Juga ada keinginan untuk bersosial, tidak salah untuk berbisnes online asalkan tanggungjawab sebagai cikgu itu dilaksanakan dengan baik.

Akhir sekali, penghina-penghina cikgu ini, sebelum menulis sesuatu yang tidak baik tentang cikgu, fikir dahulu siapa yang ajar anda supaya boleh mengeja dan mengira. Anda tidak keluar dari rahim ibu dengan sedia boleh mengeja, membaca dan mengira. Siapa bagi anda markah peperiksaan yang baik supaya anda mendapat tempat di universiti dan akhirnya berada di tempat sekarang? Fikir-fikirkan lah....

p/s: Kalau jealous sangat tidak tertahan dengan cikgu, jom lah jadi cikgu dan rasalah beban kerja cikgu. Mungkin anda ni pernah apply jadi cikgu tapi ditolak kot. Pas tu, angin tengok cikgu naik gaji. Tidak apa, ada banyak option, try again? cancel? remind me later?

Ikhlas dari cikgu.:p

0 I owe my Blog an Update, whatever it is

To Malaysians, Happy Independence Day!! How do you spend this holiday? 

Me, I am just hanging around at home , spending quality times with my son. Well, it has been almost three weeks i did not have entry to my blog. I owe my blog even a tiny update, regardless of whatever it is about. 

There were just too many things i had to do these past few weeks. It felt like everything going all at once. Since the week before the Hari Raya holiday. Oh, pardon me...I have to say this first. To Moslem readers, i guess it is not too late to wish you, Selamat Hari Raya Aildilfitri! To friends who is reading this entry right now, maaf zahir dan batin.

Back to what's been happening these past weeks, there aren't actually any big happening. There were just stuff that i did that makes me so carried away and took a lot of my time to care for. However,  I am not pregnant yet for the second. Haha.. And i am not drowning in any emotional conflict too with my husband nor am i involved in any fights with my siblings. Of course though there were times when i do have these problems but,who doesn't? As long as it does not affecting my roles.

I spent my Raya holiday by driving around going here and there to do all the things that i always want to fix before this. Get whatever i always wanted before. I was so sick of dreaming of what i can have and cannot have. So, during the last holiday, i wasn't planning on going anywhere for any honeymoon trip with Steven instead, i am just gonna get up every morning, think of what i wanted, take a shower, put on casual wears, some make up, and drive to the right destination dragging my son, mom and sister together. Yeah, what better companion one could have if husband is not available , working his butt off in the office. So, basically i spent the holiday  shopping.

So, i shopped. Among all of the things that i bought for head to toe, the photo below highlighted among all. Not because it is a plain hair brush but, i gotta tell you i hadn't brush my hair since last December! I , i would never brush my curly locks unless during the shower after applying the conditioner, i would just combed out any frills with a distant bristle comb. Because of i wanted to end the reign of the curly locks, i get myself .....

... the Body Shop hair brush. Super duper soft to the scalp. It just give me that massaging effect. Material used, bamboo... My mom said that i must be crazy getting a MYR50 hair brush when in fact any hair brush or combs can also make the hair looked manageable. I also don't understand why. Blame the internet.

As i mentioned just now, having good hair brush comes from getting my hair straigthened! I always love my curly locks but got this one morning when i said to myself,  it is time for a change. The hair dresser is locals of Kota Belud, Quinton. Well he is quite famous as the make up artist for weddings and local beauty queen competitions. I just love his work. Well, there were too many times whenever i went to other hair dresser to straighten my locks, they will chop off all the wavy locks before they even start to straighten it! They always come up with ," your locks is too dry and if i straighten them, they will damaged badly." Then the chopping took off immediately before i can see it. Then the end product is i got pretty short hair. I have chemistry with my long hair. They are my babies too. But, Quinton...he just straighten them first, with extra protections sprayed on my locks and yeay, we got that silky straighten hair. Silkiest hair i ever had ! He finished it off with only some trimming to the hair ends and tadaa, long silky straight locks.Now, that 50 bucks hair brush has things to do already instead of just sitting in the dark drawer. He he he.

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I even found a land to be sold! Well, this is what had been take a lot of my time lately. There's just too many to consider too, financially to be exact. I always thought that finding the right land to build my dream house is difficult or almost impossible since there weren't too many people that would sell off their land, considering how much a land can do for ya! So, it is like, i kept this as a dream. But now, this dream is coming true if i just grab it and settle it. 

This land i found is in Tuaran District and sell in lots. The whole things haven't been settled yet, not even 50% because i am still considering, weighing, comparing and whatever you do when things got too good to be true. Though actually i already made an early agreement to book the lots that i think to be most suitable to build my dream house.

 I always dreamed of this. Yeah, to be in Tuaran means it is near to my hometon and yet not too far from the city of Kota Kinabalu But, when it falls right to my lap,almost like a durian runtuh (a big fortune) i cannot believe it and i am taking  my own sweet time considering whether i should take it or forget it.This is me. Sometimes , i can be quite prejudice of an opportunity coming. Well, i still got a week to think about this before settling everything and place my ownership on that very land.

What is this baby doing there? I called up him and when he turned, found out that he was actually...

Reading! Ha ha ha. You and i know that my 11 months old son can hardly read. He is just flipping the book and makes sound like.."ya ya, ar ar ar, ya  ya ya."I had difficulties understanding it. But he does seem like an expert reading in his own language.

This young proffesor is trying to get off something that sticks under his foot.

I am also planning my son 's first birthday! See, i told ya. There's so many things going on. It is still under planning, and for some reasons that i don't understand, i am nervous of his first birthday party be like when the day comes. It should be next week on Saturday. My son is reaching his one year old this coming Thursday but since everyone is busy during the weekdays, Steven and I plan to get it held on the weekend. Steven and mom has been very helpful in this matter. Designing a banner and a card, shopping for kitchen appliances and groceries. I could never have done this thing alone. 

Will post an entry on planning the first birthday party for baby and another entry for the birthday party. Now, i am more of excited than nervous. 

Finally, before this weekend passed, i will have to get all the birthday party plans and the menus and every details done because before the birthday party happens, i am coaching and escorting school netball team to a competition next Friday. And to my most terrified guts, the players have no experiences at all in netball. The boss asked to select this kind of players. I have to go with it though it sucks. It should be fine if the competition is six months ahead, but situation now, they and me only have four days for training. Please God, helps me get through this.

That's all for now. So, how about you? How do you spend you holiday?

1 Perfect Ballerina Bun

Ever wonder how those people twist their bun perfectly cute sphere at the back of their head? 

This hairstyle has been like a hit wonder of all time since it is not only looked polished and chic on women, but also gives you the feeling of breeziness on your back neck especially on nowadays dry season.

It is very suitable to wear it to both work and play. Whether you are going to the office ,barbeque party on the weekend, shopping, or relaxing by the beach and even to a formal dinner with your colleagues. 

If you have curly hair, it might been easier for you to gather your hair, put it into a bun and secure it with booby pins.  But , man...if you have very thick hair like mine or..if you have that silky straight hair, you kinda feel so grrrr that the hair keeps falling off from your grip. And this tool WORK BEST for both thin and thickest hair, curly and straightened hairs one could have. 

But, with this tool whether you have curly of straight hairs, breeziness is anytime on your way. Those who wear tudung/hijab also can use this to tie your hair into a bun before put the tudung/hijab on. I got this a beauty and accessories booth at Palm Square , Centrepoint Kota Kinabalu the other day and it only cost me MYR 10! It comes with a simple packing that compact with instructions on how to make bun with it. Then you will not left  like a monkey who has been just handed in a rose.

The packing has instructions on it for three ways to use this tool. 

You are not only will restricted into one kind of bun style , but also it can be use to tie a ponytail.  I also do not have to use any booby pins with you because , i won't be needing it now anymore. Just pull, roll , twist and you are done!

0 Boston@ Yau Yat Seng , Capital Karamunsing: Best Chicken Curry Noodle

Last weekend , i had a shopping spree with Steven, if you must know or in case you are wondering, he is my husband. When the stomach sang its anthem, we kinda heading to the nearest the restaurant where the car was parked, Boston with its concept restaurant, Yau Yat Seng at Capital Karamunsing.

I am not going to list down the whole list of the menu that you should try here, okay. Just want to share the experience of best curry noodle in town, though i am not sure if it is its must-taste-it food there.

Inside the restaurant. This is a halal restaurant, it does not serve pork and not even use lard . 

See the menu book? There are so many choices from Malaysian's cuisine until Western's. Very thick menu book by the way.

They have thickest menu ready on the table and Steven sets his eyes on its chicken curry mee while me chose the house noodle soup. It has been his favorite menu in every restaurant we went but, i never seen him slurping like so! So, i joined in the fun. Its curry soup is the thickest, creamiest curry i ever taste! No kidding here. It is like having an euphoria slurping through the hot and very lightly spiced taste. One large drumstick and dry fried tofu put together inside the large bowl , complete the whole taste of an ideal curry noodle.

Along the noodle slurping sessions, we can't stop mumbling, "this is the best, this is best.....mmm.. this is the best." 

Enough with the delicious part, one has to quench the post-curry thirst  with something cold in which Steven ordered the cincau +cendol susu. Not the best 'cincau susu' we 'd ever tasted by the way. Lack of something, the picture tell its story, there. You can tell that it is not sweetened enough. On the other hand, i was content  with my simply milk tea. Kaw kaw punya oh!

If one is fancy with fine dining,  this is definitely the place you would wanna come back again for more despite its mediumly pricey food. However, the satisfaction you got simply worth the bills.

Have you been here yet? If you are not, why not stop by, place your order and enjoy the food?

0 Color wheel and Style: The Game of Matching

Imagine yourself in this situation. You've got red kebaya to rock on today to an event, you wonder if you should go on and wear it since you do not have red heels, red hand candy to complete the whole look. Yes, many girls think that everything has to matched by the exact same color head to heels.

Well, think again. There's whole lots of bunch of colors that certainly could go with red.


Me, i hate that all one color look. I like pairing contrasting colors together. I mean randomly. Without any knowledge of the color harmony and complementary. But when i search online i found out that there very close connections between the color wheel and make up. Like cheese and pizzas. That good pizza you want to share with everyone else because you are too full of the goodness of them.

Colors play great important deal in styles. Head to toe, enough said.

Questions always arise how do we know how particular colors matched with others. By staring at the mirror for an hour? That mirror could be broken you know for the over powering of the image of you standing too long in front of it! But actually it is easy! Refer to the color wheel! My color wheel below is the extended one contains almost every possible primary to tertiary colors.  

Cool tones: From lime green to violet
Warm tones: From Crimson to yellow

There are four ways how we can match colors on the color wheel to apply it on our make up regime or style picks. Complementary, analogous, monochromatic, and triadic. Complementary colors does not necessarily comes for two opposite colors on the color wheel only, but it can be 'x' complementary too. Means four colors combo. For instance , blue, violet, yellow and orange.

Matching colors pattern on the color wheel.
Complementary : opposite colors can involve with two until four colors.
Triadic: Colors that form triangle on the color wheel.
Analogous : Involve 2-3 colors that are sides by sides
Monochromatic: One gradient color from darkest to brightest shades 

However! 
You still has to consider your skin undertones! Either it is cool or warm undertones. How the heck we know? Take silver and gold jewelleries, put them on the skin under your wrist. If silver looked better on it, then your skin fall under cool undertones while if your skin looked better with gold, then you are warm undertoned. Or , if this is too confusing, then look at the vein color under your wrist. If the veins looked green then, you are warm undertoned, if they looked blue, you are on the opposite undertones.   

If you still confuse about your undertones, then you can always pick cool undertones as this works on almost every skin tones. 

  So, if you have brown eyes, you have the most fun of all, as you can match almost every color of make up there are in the market. Green eyes? Purple is the wisest choice to bring out the beautiful color of green. Blue eyes stand out more with golden, brown and orangey shades. One has to remember the basic on putting make up on your eyes is to never put the same shades of eye make up with your eyes color. You will only looked washed out. That leaves us to the theory, if you are matching your eye color with your eyeshadow, go for opposite colors.   Generally, if you are to choose the right shades of lipstick, you may use the principle of triad. For example, if you have green shades of eyeshadow, then the most flattering color for your lips is coral color.

Smoky eyes, brown.

  Monochromatic colors are very great to be applied for creating smoky eyes. As this will create gradience on the eyelids if they are applied with correct technique, which is the blending technique. I used to think that smoky eyes are meant for black, grey and brown shades but the fact is smoky eyes is not about the color but  the blending technique is what mattered and gives the smoky eyes look.  

Colorful make up and nail colors

 Aw, you seeing things in two? Blinking? Pardon me, if i made you feel dizzy. I admit that this game of matching colors, understanding them can be daunting. I myself apply this very seldom. Of course there are days when we feel like in the mood for colors That's when we can play this game of matching colors and have fun with it.

The color theory does not applied to only the eye make up alone. It is never. Your colors of clothes, handbag, shoes, earring or whatever you wear head to toe, could be matched with the colors from the color wheel. For example,  to achieve a warm look, you wear a green tank top, then you may use orange jacket then complete it with violet heels. on the other hand, to achieve cool look, you may wear combination of blue, pink and yellow.   

Cool tones styles 

Warm tones styles

But, of course exception are meant for the neutral colors like black, white and grey. These colors however does not sit in the color wheel. They can be matched with pretty much every colors we had. Still, it is better to avoid wearing more than 3 colors at a time. Especially if you are heading to work. There were rules on attending certain interviews require that one should never wear more than 3 colors of outfit when you are attending interviews. Guess it's just too early for too much personality, perhaps?

So, armed with color wheel theory, it is not necessarily wear for example blue eyeshadows, blue handbag when you wear blue outfits. Maybe of different shades of monochromatic blue with completely opposite colors for accessories. For eye makeup, experiment with colors, though usually we took the safest way, which to go for earthy tones since it never goes wrong! Turn to the opposite color, like orangey shades. The whole look will be catchy and definitely get a headturn for that.

Colors set mood. Color you, color me.

Have fun picking colors, girls!

1 How Asian Should Apply Makeups From a Caucasian Makeup Tutorials

The first time i applied makeup on my skin was when i was 17. I know, it is that early for those who is in my generations. Generation 80's. I know, it is that kinda late for those who were born in 90's. But it was only a mascara! I was so obsessed with thick and long lashes back at that time that i was trying to save more just to get a tube, from Fasio to be exact.

Then, i explore more about this art of beauty when i was in matriculations and advance myself to experimenting various colors of eyeshadows when i was in university. Well, that is due to easy access of internet that i was able to read and watch makeup tutorials more often than doing my assignments. Hahaha, i completed my degree by the way with honorary upper second class. But i do not get any degree for watching, reading and practising makeups, unfortunately.

And to my realizations, most of the sites that i found was usually from a Caucasian, rarely by Asians. Well, the bloggers themselves looked so beautiful in their tutorials photos and videos, who does not believe them that one can also apply, makeups like them and get the results as they have been tutoring us.

Okay, if you are an Asians, especially from the Southeast and East, no matter how precisely you followed every instructions in the tutorials, you ended up frustrated because the end results looks almost nothing to the looks you are trying to achieve. Just when you think that you did enough, you open your eyes just to see a very light wash of color on the lid. The eye makeups disappear somewhere hidden in the folded lids.

Asian eyes are beautiful regardless of their shapes and settings. Asian women should not be feel as if it is useless for them to wear make ups when actually there are lots of make ups style that they can rock on too.

Nowadays, it is so popular among Asian to get surgery for double eyelids to achieve that of look like the one they saw in most of makeups tutorials. It is not that i am against such a procedures but, the aims on performing such should be assessed first before going under the knife. There were also tapes that can be stick on the eyelid to create temporary double eyelids which i think makes the makeups work becomes harder. I mean, how can you put eyeshadows on the tapes? Isn't it will looked like you had a weird shiny strip on your lid?

It is really okay by the way not to look exactly like the celebrities, models, make ups gurus on the internet. Because you can apply make ups using their style with little improvisations or to tone down to suits Asian features and make it wearable. It should be like to make the whole look on the face looked more awake and presentable or to make certain parts on your face stands out more. The aims of wearing make ups does not necessarily makes the fake looks but to enhance your natural beauty.

So before we start looking any eye makeups routines, one should analyse their eyes first.

Which one is your type? Mine, is more to 'f' on my right eye and 'c' on the left eye. Not a uniform shapes for me , but there are many Asian that has slightly different shaped eyes going  at once. When i got teary night before, the next morning, i could've have the 'e' and sometimes even 'g'  shapes. Ha ha ha

I am not saying that people with these eye shapes have the swollen eyes all the time, by the way. It is only that my eyes could get that way in times.

With contact lenses on. My natural eye color is dark brown. I am not wearing it to get that Western look but, to add variety in my makeup looks as well as to match and makes the colors of eyeshadow i am using more stands out. Colored contact lenses by the way, has become the latest trends Asian does with their make ups.

As we can see here, there were lots of eyes shapes that an Asian women possesed. However, a Caucasians too is possible to have eyes like the Asian like, Blake Lively, Camilla Belle, and...can you think more of them? An Asian typically has hooded but deep eyes, double lids with round eyes, double lids with small eyes, and heavily hooded protruding eyes.

Caucasians have their wide eyelids up until the crease. This is one of the important features  that differs their eyes  with Asians. 

If you have double lids that is wide enough that it reaches your eye socket, then you have no problem to put your makeups like Caucasian does. If yours are one like the others then, you must acknowledge that your lids does not reach the  crease. Our lids are thinner and will fold, becomes invisible when eyes are opened in some Asian. The crease is the eye socket which can only be define by feeling it with fingers or your make up brushes (in the photos below).

So, that's mean we apply makeups to define crease is along the eye socket, not above the eyelids line like Caucasian commonly does. Hence, eyeshadow for the eyelids means it should cover the whole eyelids and stop at the eye socket. Means, slightly higher than the eyelids.

Eyeshadow for the eyelids should cover the entire eyelid until the eye socket area. Mistake made when one put the eyeshadow on the eyelid area that will fold in when the eyes opened. Every shades for every parts of the eye should be put higher than what the Caucasian tutorials told you. This due to the eyelid structures being different of the Asian's and Caucasian's.

Defining crease of an Asian eye. Take note that the crease is higher than the eyelids. The crease is the eye socket or more commonly known as the orbital rim.

The most important thing when applying eyeshadow is to put the v-shape at the outer corner of the eyes. This step probably the hardest to do and the final step in applying eyeshadows if you are going to apply this at all. Why does this v-shape important? It creates depths to the eyes, makes the eyes appears wider than it is.

To create a picture perfect v-shape, one needs serious blending work to do. Blending means to blur the border between the dark shades of the v shape from other shades of eyeshadow that were put. Because if you don't, it looks like a plain 'V' at the corner of the eyes with sharp and definite ends. But, unless this what you are trying to achieve, then let it be.

First draw in upward motion at the most outer corner of the eyes, near the eyelashes 1/3 of the eyes. Then by gently pushing the brush into the eye socket borders, (this helps you to locate the Asian crease and get that exact depths to the eyes) pat the eyeshadows from the outer to the 1/3 of the crease, inwards. This is best done with pointed brush tips to get that definitions.

Then, blur out the borders between the eyeshadows shades, gently. Try not to overdo it because you may cause the v-shape or the crease to be drown with the lids color. I have to admit that this skill is very hard to be mastered but with practice, you will reach there soon.

For the lower lash line, if you have small eyes, with eyebags it is better to leave it as it is. If you have to color it by the way to create a smokey look, then you may just put the darkest shades of eyeshadow colors on you and pat it with slanted brush from the outer to the inner corner. Stop until you reach below your eyeball. One with smaller eyes should avoid lining the lower lash line because it makes the eyes looked even smaller. But if you have round eyes, then it is fine to rim the entire eyes to create more drama. But still if one has obvious or pretty bad eyebags  going on, avoid lining the lower lash line.

Highlighters should not be only applied on the browbone area but also to the inner corner of the eyes and the tearduct to make the eyes looked more opened and bigger.

Either liquid eyeliners, pencil or kohl, it is up to your preference to wear whichever. However, liquid eyeliner works better on creating very define and thin line. But, if you find the liquid one is too dry to your skin eyes area, you may need to use the kohl one. Make sure you have the waterproof one and the creamier , the better as you'll want it to glide smoothly on your lash lines. There are lots of quality pencil eyeliner in the market now from high end to the low end beauty lines to choose from. I love the eyeliner ranges from Maybelline, the liquid and the kohl types.   Finally the mascara! Never leave house without the mascara on. Curl your lashes first before applying it generously at least double coats!

What is your eye shapes? How do you always wear your eyeshadows? How do you make your eyes stand out?